O: Today’s Deb-Blog Has Been Brought to You by the Letter D for Desertion and the Letter O for Out Of Sight Out Of Mind
I’ve often pondered which is true. Is it “Out of sight, out of mind,” or “Absence makes the heart grow fonder?” I’ve been in long-distance relationships (pick a state, pick a country) and I still don’t know. I suspect there is no clear-cut answer and it depends on those involved. And it is not necessarily just in long-distant relationships but emotionally ambiguous ones. All of the above have applied to me.
Longing and aching for someone is a wonderful pain. But it’s awful if it is not reciprocated. Usually. Shared desire and longing is equally wonderful and torture. But it’s exciting. In these cases, absence makes the heart grow fonder.
When I have loved and lost and, therefore, been the one with the heart of growing fondness, eventually it becomes out of sight, out of mind. Since all those relationships are in the distant past, I am clearly in an out of sight, out of mind phase across the board.
But I truly have pondered these two phrases as they apply to relationships. I mean, you hear about those people who reunite after decades apart and live happily ever after. I can’t imagine that about any of my past loves, except the dead one. But that is probably because I’ve no way of knowing. It’s safe.
Songs can always bring you back to a love, a time, a feeling. And now, our first Interlude of missing you songs, Everclear’s “Santa Monica:”
Maybe both out of sight, out of mind and absence makes the heart grow fonder can exist simultaneously in one’s heart. How we feel about someone is so very personal and can change in an instant. Then, of course, there’s also the phrase, “Familiarity breeds contempt.” I like to imagine this next interlude is a story of such an affair. This song just makes my heart happy. Sometimes I just have to hear “Galveston” by Glen Campbell:
And how tragic to feel for the one who doesn’t love you or has gotten away while you try to feel the same for another. I confess, this has happened to me more than once. Nothing puts me back there when I’m in one of those moods than this classic torch song by the delightful Patsy Cline!: